The World of Male Escorts
Whenever the profession of escort services is mentioned, it is almost an autonomous reaction to associate it to females. Most escort websites use female pictures for their branding and it is obvious that escorts are mostly female. This stands to reason as the biggest consumers of the service are male. However, escort services are provided by males as well, and even in this case males still seem to be the biggest consumers of the service. In Britain, statistics show that as many as twenty percent of escorts are males.
Based on accounts, the client base for his services consists of mostly single men though there are cases where the men are married. Some of these men are openly gay and the customer age group tends to be 30 years old and above.
Like their female counterparts, their primary mode of advertisement is through online channels. It is estimated that about 80 per cent of male escorts have an online presence and offer both incall and outcall services.
Popular among male escorts is the practice of ChemSex. This where various drugs are used by either or both escort and the client. This is done to heighten the sensation and the experience and is one of the most heavily requested services. Of course, this only applies to male escorts who engage in sexual activity as not all of them do.
Male escorts are also susceptible to robbery, assault, etc. Where they differ from females is how this is handled. If the escort session was handled in a legal manner, then female escorts are comfortable reporting crimes to the police. Males sex workers on the other hand are much less comfortable. The reason for this is threefold.
The first consideration is that they are men. While women are more likely to express their emotions and cry out for help in these scenarios, for many males, being raped or assaulted is a bruise to the ego. Having to articulate the ordeal to the police is also a huge step in putting pride aside for males. Second, male escorts are not above the stigma that their female counterparts must deal with where they are viewed as simply sex workers. Past situations have acted as a deterrent for the reporting of these incidents. The impression that “you decided to do sex work so it’s your fault” will be thrown at them is reason for them to forego reporting these incidents. Finally, there is the impression of assault and rape on men in general as opposed to women. The truth is when men are on the receiving end of these crimes, many people, some of which are in the police force, don’t think it’s as serious as it is for women. These persons tend to treat it as such. The combination of these factors causes male escorts to shut down in this sense and accept whatever happens, whether good or bad.
It’s important to realize that females are not the only ones who form the escort community. Males reap the same benefits and are exposed to similar risk factors.
Things to Consider when Dating an Escort
Sometimes due to their nature of work, people forget that escorts are human beings. They have the need for basic things such as affection. It’s not uncommon for escorts to be in relationships (though some of them hide their source of income from their significant other) with committed individuals. As escorts are usually physically attractive and possess enchanting personalities, it is likely persons will be attracted to them. The success of their business largely depends on their attractiveness. If you are considering dating an escort you should consider the following.
You’re probably not the first
The first thing to consider is that what you do may not be as original as you may think. Escort services are expensive, and the clientele tends to be persons who not only can afford them, but persons who are also wealthy. Additionally, many of these persons just require companionship and will take escorts on quite impressive experiences. Apart from experiences, if the escort you’re interested in provides sexual services, then clients may have already wowed him/her with techniques that you may know. Escorts must give the impression of a pseudo-relationship to multiple clients and so these clients do things that are typically done in relationships. You need to accept that this is the case and ensure that the sentiment outweighs the gesture in the mind of the escort you are attracted to.
Work may take priority over date night
Escorts must dedicate time to clients to make the money they desire. This is usually for hours at a time and it typically will happen during the night. You have to be able to deal with the fact that work will most likely not only mess with your spending time with him/her, but this work will mean that spending time with you is forgone for spending time providing companionship to strangers.
Making other people feel good and satisfied regardless of how you are feeling is mentally and emotionally exhausting. It must be faked many times and once it’s over reality will set in. Since you will most likely be the person that the escort is her/his real self with, you will likely be on the receiving end of venting in an emotionally exhausted state. Not only will you probably have to listen to some uncomfortable work stories, you are expected to provide the necessary reassurance.
Not every escort provides sexual services, but if the one you are interested in does, then there are risks you may be exposing yourself to especially if unprotected services are offered. All the risks attached to promiscuous sex apply here such as STDs and pregnancy. Escorts usually try to take steps to prevent these (at least the latter) but there is no 100% safe method to remain safe unless abstinence is practiced (which is not really happening here).
Dating someone of any profession can be challenging, however, when the profession boils down to faking attraction for a fee, there can be some challenges for you down the line.
Worst Things to do to an Escort
It’s not very hard to stay in the good graces of an escort. Provided you make the required payment and behave even remotely like a human being, your escort experience is generally expected to be a pleasant one. The job description of an escort includes making you feel good. However, this has not stopped some people from managing to pull of the amazing feat of getting the escort to stop caring because of poor choices. We would prefer you not be an awful client and so here are some of the worst things that you should avoid doing to an escort.
Attempting to have unsafe sex
Unless it was part of your initial agreement, do not attempt to have any kind of unprotected intercourse with an escort. Apart from your coming off as a total douche, there are health risks attached to this for you both. Neither of you knows the other’s sexual history. Even so, you are aware that this person is an escort and has very likely had sexual intercourse with multiple other persons. Just don’t do this and don’t try to find a way to convince an escort against his/her will.
Overstaying your welcome
This again follows the line of sticking to the agreement. There is always an agreement for time you want and are willing to pay for. While the experience can be incredible, it’s just the result of the escort doing a good job. It doesn’t mean there’s attraction for you to capitalize on for your benefit to get extra time for free. Think of trying to get extra food at a restaurant for free. You’re essentially attempting to rob the business of profit and disregarding the effort of the person preparing the food. Don’t be this person. It’s likely you’ll simply annoy the escort and guarantee never having a repeat appointment.
Last minute cancellation
Have you ever made plans with someone only for the person to cancel at the last minute when you’re ready and rearing to go? So, you’re aware of what this feels like and you’re also aware that this is something you shouldn’t do. This is especially applicable when you’re messing with someone’s livelihood. This escort has forgone other bookings to allocate the timeslot to you and it’s unlikely he/she will be able to replace the appointment on such short notice. Unless there is a really good reason (like meeting in an accident), do not do this.
Erectile dysfunction drug use
This one is twofold. First there are those who don’t need these drugs but take them anyway to ‘last long’. This can result in difficulty in bringing you to climax which is not fun for your escort and will cease to be fun for you at some point. Second, there are those who either need or don’t need these drugs but hide the fact they’ve taken them which confuses the escort about what is happening with your body. Do not be either of these people as your escort will lose interest in your satisfaction once it becomes tiresome.